What do you do when you come to the realization that you have arrived at a place in your career when you have no desire to be in management? We’re told via succession planning and the seen potential in us by others, that we are management material. Management is always conveyed as the ultimate goal of any role, to be in charge of and over others. But the looks of disbelief that come when you tell your supervisor/manager that have no passion or desire to move into management are staggering. They look at you in disbelief, dumbfounded at your words, and as if you have taken temporary leave of your senses; like you are lazy and lacking in ambition, when that couldn’t be further from the truth. Read the rest of this entry »
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Shake A Tail Feather
Happy Friday my Lovelies!
Today’s blog will be a quick one. I have had the most stressful 2 weeks of my career in a long time and I needed something go relieve the stress. An afternoon of office putt putt golf went a long way towards lightening my mood and music will do the rest! Once upon a time, many moons ago me and my girls would go out on Fridays to Max’s and dance into the night. Now as homage to my dancing days (soon to be revived) dance until you sweat!!
So Much To Do, So Little Time
I am so late posting this week. Somehow I let life get the best of me and I pushed those things I love to the wayside. There is so much going on in my head. Countless thoughts, inspirations and ideas that need to be given life and purpose, but I don’t know where to find the time to do it all. There is a second business to get off the ground, two books to work on, a non-profit to create on paper then establish, added to that is my regular life, ( marriage, family, work, church, health, and somewhere in there I have to find time for me).
Please don’t take this as me complaining, as I take great joy in my work and feel fulfilled when I can cross one more thing off of my life’s to-do list. I have been blessed with the gift of writing and am certain that in doing what I am passionate about, I am not only honing my craft but also actually ministering to and nourishing my soul. So my Lovelies keep your open as great things are on the horizon!
Blessings and Happiness
Hump Day Blues
Happy Hump Day my Lovelies!!
I am beyond tired and overwrought right now!!! In an effort to make me feel better and power through the rest of my day, below is a favorite oldie of mine and an accurate depiction of how I feel today! Enjoy!!
Blessings and Happiness
Making Work A Little More Fun
Happy Tuesday My Lovelies!
We all know that we spend an asinine amount of time at work, more than we spend with our loved ones. And in doing so at times we can become intertwined in our co-worker’s lives, we share stories, meals, break times and birthday cake. I have an “office” mate ( We live in cubicles across from each other) and her name is Macie, Mace for short and if she likes you. She has to be the cutest and most hilarious person I have ever worked with. She has this naivety about life at times and Googles EVERYTHING! One day it was raining baby zoo animals outside and I sent an email, while driving ( Yes, I know, don’t even start with me ) stating the following:
Good Morning All,
I am slowly making my way in, my neighborhood and quite a few side streets here in West Houston are flooding. Don’t worry, even if I have to turn my car into a pontoon boat I will be in! 🙂
*googling: pontoon boat*
We are from the South, everyone in the South knows what a pontoon boat is, or so I thought anyway. We had a huge laugh over it and just added to the list of things that she Googles, like hooptie. ( No folks, she had no idea what a hooptie was) Yet even though she has a funny side, her nickname yesterday was “Heinz 57″ because she was being quite saucy. I mentioned off handily as I was walking away from my desk that I had a headache, she quipped ” You are a headache!” I nearly got whiplash spinning around and called her “Sauceboxx”! She just giggled and said she was in a mood.
With so much time spent away from home we are lucky, blessed even, to find people that make work life a little easier to bear. Here’s to everyday being an adventure and never quite knowing what Macie will Google next…
Blessings and Happiness
Don’t Put Your Labels On Me – Part II
Here we are yet again… *sigh*
I’ve had multiple instances in the past couple of weeks where someone (in this case WASP / White Anglo Saxon Protestant female manager bolstered by another authoritative WASP woman) automatically assumed I was lying and tried to “catch” me by offering up what they saw as “proof”. I had to write detailed explanations of the circumstances, justify myself and provided my own absolutely irrefutable proof that I was indeed being ethical and truthful from the very beginning. (I.e. I shut this mess down quickly with perfect tact, professionalism and screen grabs.) This was followed by the most insulting five words I’ve heard in recent memory, “Thank you for your honesty.”
Thank you for your honesty?! That insinuates that you assume that everything I say and/or do is fabricated until you feel you have sufficient proof that I’m telling the truth. This coming from the same non-POC people who, when the tables are turned, and I KNOW that non-POC has glaringly lied through their perfectly veneered teeth, tell me to “assume positive intent” or that I “misunderstood” what they said/did/asked/instructed/demanded. I am positive that it was intended to make me out a thief of time, a fabricator of salacious falsehoods and unethical to boot. Nothing there to misunderstand.
To compound all of this and add insult to injury, the earlier exchange is later followed by a backhanded compliment of a recorded WebEx presentation I did 3-4 weeks ago saying, “… it was very professional and easy to follow. I was very impressed with your presentation skills…”. There again are the micro aggressions.
It is automatically ASSumed that we are lying. It is automatically ASSumed that, despite our experience and education, we don’t have the same or better skill set than our white counterparts. And when we prove we ARE telling the truth and we DO have the knowledge and expertise, they are “impressed” with our professionalism and presentation skills. You ASSume because of my milk chocolate hued skin, my Afrocentric name and my love of head wraps that I couldn’t possibly be poised and polished and able to lead, teach, and inform the masses, let alone the white masses. I have to prove to you beyond what is expected of my white counterparts that I AM and that I CAN.
This is what it is to be black in Corporate America. This is what it is to be black in America, period.
#staywoke #resist #DiaryOfAMadBlackProfessionalWoman
Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on October 21, 2017 in Social Commentary, Work Life
Tags: Corporate America, Culture, Diary of a Mad Black Professional Woman, Life, Micro Aggressions, Opinion, Race, racism, Reflections, Resist, Social, Social Commentary, Stay Woke, Tanesha Graham, Work, work life, Working While Black