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Don’t Put Your Labels On Me – Part II

Don’t Put Your Labels On Me – Part II

Here we are yet again… *sigh*

I’ve had multiple instances in the past couple of weeks where someone (in this case WASP / White Anglo Saxon Protestant female manager bolstered by another authoritative WASP woman) automatically assumed I was lying and tried to “catch” me by offering up what they saw as “proof”. I had to write detailed explanations of the circumstances, justify myself and provided my own absolutely irrefutable proof that I was indeed being ethical and truthful from the very beginning. (I.e. I shut this mess down quickly with perfect tact, professionalism and screen grabs.) This was followed by the most insulting five words I’ve heard in recent memory, “Thank you for your honesty.”

Thank you for your honesty?! That insinuates that you assume that everything I say and/or do is fabricated until you feel you have sufficient proof that I’m telling the truth. This coming from the same non-POC people who, when the tables are turned, and I KNOW that non-POC has glaringly lied through their perfectly veneered teeth, tell me to “assume positive intent” or that I “misunderstood” what they said/did/asked/instructed/demanded. I am positive that it was intended to make me out a thief of time, a fabricator of salacious falsehoods and unethical to boot. Nothing there to misunderstand.

To compound all of this and add insult to injury, the earlier exchange is later followed by a backhanded compliment of a recorded WebEx presentation I did 3-4 weeks ago saying, “… it was very professional and easy to follow. I was very impressed with your presentation skills…”. There again are the micro aggressions.

It is automatically ASSumed that we are lying. It is automatically ASSumed that, despite our experience and education, we don’t have the same or better skill set than our white counterparts. And when we prove we ARE telling the truth and we DO have the knowledge and expertise, they are “impressed” with our professionalism and presentation skills. You ASSume because of my milk chocolate hued skin, my Afrocentric name and my love of head wraps that I couldn’t possibly be poised and polished and able to lead, teach, and inform the masses, let alone the white masses. I have to prove to you beyond what is expected of my white counterparts that I AM and that I CAN.

This is what it is to be black in Corporate America. This is what it is to be black in America, period.

#staywoke #resist #DiaryOfAMadBlackProfessionalWoman

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Not Now Does Not Mean Not Ever

Not Now Does Not Mean Not Ever

What do you do when you come to the realization that you have arrived at a place in your career when you have no desire to be in management? We’re told via succession planning and the seen potential in us by others, that we are management material. Management is always conveyed as the ultimate goal of any role, to be in charge of and over others. But the looks of disbelief that come when you tell your supervisor/manager that have no passion or desire to move into management are staggering. They look at you in disbelief, dumbfounded at your words, and as if you have taken temporary leave of your senses; like you are lazy and lacking in ambition, when that couldn’t be further from the truth. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 27, 2014 in Inspiration, Work Life

 

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Shake A Tail Feather

Happy Friday my Lovelies!

Today’s blog will be a quick one.  I have had the most stressful 2 weeks of my career in a long time and I needed something go relieve the stress.  An afternoon of office putt putt golf went a long way towards lightening my mood and music will do the rest!  Once upon a time, many moons ago me and my girls would go out on Fridays to Max’s and dance into the night. Now as homage to my dancing days (soon to be revived) dance until you sweat!!

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So That’s Why Silent Mode Exist…

Happy Monday my Lovelies!!

It has been a couple of weeks since All Star Weekend and I haven’t had the time to post anything, even though there is tons for me to talk about.  Today in the life of me I had to be my own Public Service Announcement, so y’all this one is directed at me as well… sigh ( LMBO) Read the rest of this entry »

 

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So Much To Do, So Little Time

     I am so late posting this week. Somehow I let life get the best of me and I pushed those things I love to the wayside.  There is so much going on in my head.  Countless thoughts, inspirations and ideas that need to be given life and purpose, but I don’t know where to find the time to do it all.  There is a second business to get off the ground, two books to work on, a non-profit to create on paper then establish, added to that is my regular life, ( marriage, family, work, church, health, and somewhere in there I have to find time for me).

     Please don’t take this as me complaining, as I take great joy in my work and feel fulfilled when I can cross one more thing off of my life’s to-do list.  I have been blessed with the gift of writing and am certain that in doing what I am passionate about, I am not only honing my craft but also actually ministering to and nourishing my soul.  So my Lovelies keep your open as great things are on the horizon!

Blessings and Happiness

T. Nicole

 

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Hump Day Blues

Happy Hump Day my Lovelies!!

I am beyond tired and overwrought right now!!! In an effort to make me feel better and power through the rest of my day, below is a favorite oldie of mine and an accurate depiction of how I feel today!  Enjoy!!

Blessings and Happiness

T. Nicole

 

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That Is So Not Where I Thought That Converstation Would Go…

Happy Friday my Lovelies!!

I don’t think I have been looking forward to a Friday like this since like… forever it would seem!  I was nice today and brought donuts (cake donuts this time) to the office, mostly because I felt the need to do something that would make me happy. It also fulfilled my craving for sugar, so there was a dual purpose.  Nonetheless, Macie and I were chatting via IM, as usual of course, and we got on the subject of our work email names.  From that it went so far left that I can barely believe we were talking about emails at first. Below is a transcription of our chat: Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

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