Happy Saturday my lovelies!! It’s officially Spring and time for warm weather clothes and sandals, preferably these awesome Michael Kors wedges I’ve been coveting. So while sitting in the bleachers waiting for a kids basketball game to start, I am surround by a gaggle of women. Quite an uncomfortable place for me to be as I can’t normally tolerate the cackling and gossiping, it irritates me to no end.
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It’s No Wonder You’re Single
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on March 29, 2014 in Grinds My Gears, Random Thoughts and Humor, Social Commentary
Tags: Basketball, Humor, Hygiene, Men, Relationships, Single
Super Bowl Sunday: The Day That Most Married Women Dread
Happy Sunday my Loveliest!
Forgive me for not having posted regularly since my last post, I am down with the flu but couldn’t let today pass without a “Grinds My Gears” segment.
Today is Super Bowl Sunday, the Holy Grail football, the most holy and sacred of days for football lovers and finatics. (Yes, I realize that this is a bit blasphemous buy stick with me, I’m going somewhere :-P) Church services will have a skeleton crew and be very short today, patient care at the hospital may not be as diligent as it normally would be, grocery stores will be packed and the liquor/alcohol aisle will be overstocked because of those folks who didn’t hit up Spec’s or Fiesta Liquor on yesterday! (Texas is dry on that hard liquor and spirits cannot be sold on grocery stores or on Sundays)
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on February 3, 2013 in Grinds My Gears, Random Thoughts and Humor, Social Commentary
Tags: Football, Grind My Gears, Humor, Madden, Marriage, Random Thoughts, Ravens, Relationships, Sunday, Super Bowl, War of Warcraft
Super Bowl Sunday: The Day That Most Married Women Dread
Happy Sunday my Loveliest!
Forgive me for not having posted regularly since my last post, I am down with the flu but couldn’t let today pass without a “Grinds My Gears” segment.
Today is Super Bowl Sunday, the Holy Grail football, the most holy and sacred of days for football lovers and finatics. (Yes, I realize that this is a bit blasphemous buy stick with me, I’m going somewhere :-P) Church services will have a skeleton crew and be very short today, patient care at the hospital may not be as diligent as it normally would be, grocery stores will be packed and the liquor/alcohol aisle will be overstocked because of those folks who didn’t hit up Spec’s or Fiesta Liquor on yesterday! (Texas is dry on that hard liquor and spirits cannot be sold on grocery stores or on Sundays)
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on February 3, 2013 in Grinds My Gears, Random Thoughts and Humor, Social Commentary
Tags: Football, Grind My Gears, Humor, Madden, Marriage, Random Thoughts, Ravens, Relationships, Sunday, Super Bowl, War of Warcraft
Happy Birthday Sissy!
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I feel like I have abandoned you these last several weeks, my life has been turned upside down with work and if I had to remember to breathe I would have suffocated a long time ago! Thank the good Lord that He automated the process for us! So today, August 30th, 2012 is my sissy’s 26th birthday!!! I think the whole sibling rivalry thing is BS because even from childhood Erica and I have been each other’s biggest fans and proponents. Read the rest of this entry »
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on August 30, 2012 in Family, Random Thoughts and Humor, Work Life
Tags: Birthday, Family, Friends, Life, Party, Relationships, sibling rivalry, Sisters, surprise gifts
I Love Someone More Than I Love You…
Hello my Lovelies!
Something was dropped in my spirit late last night and I couldn’t rest until I put it on paper.
I come across people going in and out of bad relationships, carrying baggage around with them until you can’t see them for the issues that they have. The most common is of course the old adage, “You caused me to have low self-esteem!” This is where my sympathetic ear turns jaded and I have to lay some things on the table and be real. This may hurt someone’s feelings, this may cause you to say that I am wrong and how could I even think that way, but know that the truth is the truth, rather you choose to believe it or not.
With every relationship, whether it be a friendship, familial bonds or romantic in nature (this includes “friends with benefits”- The most asinine of them all) emotions are always involved. This whole notion of being able to be in a relationship with someone without any attachments is people deluding themselves. Human beings are emotional creatures; we thrive on interaction, love and fulfillment of purpose. We have emotional tidal waves at the hint of weddings, births, deaths, commencements and the reaching of milestones. We anxiously await the day, the hour, the minute that our partner says those three words, “What time’s dinner?”… I jest; the words are “I love you”. It makes us feel complete and adored and emotionally vested in the relationship. But when good goes to bad and you begin to be mistreated (this goes for guys and ladies alike) the first words out of your mouth are, “He/she treats me so bad. But I know that he/she loves me and I him/her…” Then you start to make excuses for the aforementioned bad behavior. Here’s the truth I was talking about earlier: You DO NOT make excuses for someone’s mistreatment of you, you DO NOT tolerate being treated less than; doing so makes you an enabler. For the most part mistreatment of someone generally stems from one of two places, insecurity on their part and/or control issues, both of which show a lack of self-worth. Otherwise why would it make you feel good to mistreat and/or control someone? If I’m talking about you say “Ouch”.
Then the “You ruined my self-esteem” comment rears its ugly head and you are laying the fault for your lack of self-worth at someone else’s feet. No, pick that up and place the blame exactly where it belongs, back on you. Self-esteem is just that… the admiration and regard you feel for yourself. How you feel about you should not be predicated on someone’s feelings or lack thereof for or about you, nor should it be centered on those things in life that are fleeting ( situations, circumstances, people, places, things). The respect you have for yourself comes from a place of joy and contentment in your accomplishments, in how you view yourself in relation to what you want from life. Don’t get me wrong, life is full of heartache and disappointments and I’m the first to admit that being a little depressed when things don’t go the way you would have hoped, is completely ok. But don’t let that keep you in a place of despair and affect the way you see yourself. When you are stuck in a place where you know that you are not being treated right, in a place where you don’t feel comforted and secure and you say that you love the other person… take a second to think, who do you love more, them or you? This helped me once upon a time and I hope that you will take the lyrics to heart and do a little introspection.
Blessings and Happiness
T. Nicole
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on May 31, 2012 in Grinds My Gears, Inspiration, Social Commentary
Tags: dating, Friends, inspiration, Life, Love, Opinion, People, Reflections, Relationships, Self Esteem
Know your Judas
Hello and happy Monday my Lovelies!
Many times we all hear people talk about how much they can’t stand their haters, how they wish that they (haters) would go away, stop hating and get something of their own. I dislike haters as much as the next person but I have come to know that haters serve a purpose. What purpose do they serve you ask? It depends on your particular situation.
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on May 21, 2012 in Inspiration, Social Commentary
Tags: Christianity, Haters, inspiration, Judas, Life, People, Relationships, Spirituality, Thoughts
The Joys of Being A Big Sis
I hear so many horror stories from friends, co-workers, Facebook folks about having siblings, specifically younger siblings. I know personally siblings that literally don’t talk to each other, not even via social media and it is sad to see honestly. The bonds between siblings are inexplicable, indescribable and at times infuriating and frustrating to say the least. However I wouldn’t change my role as a Big Sis for anything in the world. It is my job to keep the younger ones from tripping into the same pitfalls that I fell into, give them advise how to deal with the parental units and protect them from all the bad things that can happen in life. I don’t always succeed, sometimes they do the same things that I did, don’t quite navigate the waters of life without running aground, and sometimes I can’t protect them the way I would have hoped. At times I feel like a failure as the oldest, but then I get a text or a call or an IM asking me for my opinion or help and my lack of self-worth bounces back.
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on April 17, 2012 in Family, Inspiration, Social Commentary
Tags: Brothers, Family, Friends, Humor, inspiration, Life, Musings, Personal, Reflections, Relationships, Sisters
Look At Me!!
Happy Monday my dears!!
I felt a need and pulling on my soul to write something today that may touch someone. I overheard someone saying in the office one day ( I work in a cubicle farm so you can overhear almost EVERYTHING a certain someone says… Posting about that person to come later) that they wanted to be famous, even if it was for something really bad, at least their name would be known. It got me to thinking that their desire to be famous/known/recognized isn’t really all that uncommon.
Everyone wants to be admired, even the most basic creature does things to draw the attention of others; fireflies flash lights in a beautiful display, male peacocks splay their azure hued feathers proudly. Today it seems that everyone wants to be famous, even for the innocuous things. Reality TV stars are having random and staged encounters with John Q Public on national television, fighting, cursing, semi-nude, or beleaguered; movie stars who are making millions of dollars per picture, music sensations touring the world and posing in designer fashions. Everyone wants to be seen and revered, fawned over and adored. And yet, the most prolific and famous person of any generation past, current or to come, was the exact opposite. Read the rest of this entry »
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on April 16, 2012 in Inspiration, Social Commentary
Tags: Christianity, Culture, Faith, Fame, God, inspiration, Life, Lifestyle, Opinion, People, Personal, Reflections, Relationships, Social, Spirituality
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I’ll Let You In On Something…
Hey my lovelies!! It is one day closer to Friday and I am elated!! I have quite a few male friends, most of which I have known for 10+ years, and they all have the same qualms with and/or about women. They are confounded and irritated by some of our behaviors and ask me time and time again why we do certain things. So in an effort to demystify the female gender I’ll let you all in a few things.
Issues that stupefy men:
1) Why do women carry an extra pair of shoes (flip flops, slides, etc.) with them and only put on their “real” shoes when we get where we’re going?
Have you all seen our shoes!? No matter how hard designers try women’s high heels (stiletto, wedge or otherwise) are not built for comfort and function, they are built to be beautiful and sexy. After a while (this varies from person to person) our feet are burning and hurting but we still want to look good, so we endure it. Therefore we normally will refuse to put on the instruments of our beauty and torment until we absolutely have to. Just as an FYI a woman is INCREDIBLY comfortable with you if she allows you to see her all dolled up but in her flips… I dare to say she may even like you! 😉
2) Why do women put on their makeup in the car rather than at home?
Ummm… now this one is a bit tricky. Personally I will don’t wear a whole lot of makeup, power, eyeliner, lips and maybe blush/bronzer but that’s it. I don’t put on concealer, foundation, eyelashes, etc. on a daily, it just isn’t my thing. I’m not knocking anyone who does; I just don’t want that kind of maintenance every day. Nonetheless, I don’t necessarily have a concrete answer for this question. From time to time if I am running short on time and need to get on the road, then yes, I will do my makeup in the car. That leads to number three…
3) Why do women ALWAYS leave late?
Enough said!
4) Why do women say “Fine” but bring stuff up later?
This has been posted all over Facebook, Pintrest, etc. but lends more than a kernel of truth. While not all women prescribe to this, it isn’t far off base.
You’ve been warned…
5) She said she didn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day/her birthday… I didn’t get her anything (or I got her a card) and she’s pissed! But she said she didn’t want anything…
OK babies, let me help you out here and let you in on something. Most women (not all) want you to guess or pay attention to the hints that she drops about gifts. I don’t personally do this, I think it’s immature and childish and it is playing games with people. But a women will drop hints about what she wants and then eagerly wait for you to have put these in your mental Rolodex and pop up with the one thing she wants the most.
While this is not an exhaustive list of quandaries, they are the ones that I hear from my guy friends the most. Maybe this will help some poor man who is having trouble navigating the waters of a relationship and will demystify female behavior.
Blessings and Happiness Always
T. Nicole
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on April 3, 2014 in Random Thoughts and Humor, Social Commentary
Tags: Clothes, Fashion, Female Behavior, Humor, Makeup, Men, Random Thoughts, Relationships, Tanesha Graham, Women