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Why Black Lives, Like All Lives, Matter

Why Black Lives, Like All Lives, Matter

Anyone who knows me well knows that I tend to stay away from politics and religion on social media. It isn’t to say that I don’t have an opinon on global politics, domestic policy or theological discourse; I’m just not one of those people who go back and forth with strangers via Twitter, Facebook or Instagram (no judgement on those who do choose to do so). One person asked me if I was scared to put my thoughts out into the abyss of cyberspace, if I had a fear of people speaking out against me. The short answer is “no”, I have no fear of anyone else’s opinions, I’m strong in my beliefs and have no issue speaking on them when asked. If not wanting to bandy words with those that are militant, racist, facist and/or ignorant is cowardice then you can call me such and I wouldn’t care. 

I say all this as a preface to what comes next. In the last days and months I’ve seen many Facebook posts regarding the Black Lives Matter movement. Today I saw one about a correspondent on Fox News categorizing the entire movement as a ‘hate group’ and ‘murder movement’. And though I’m not surprised by this type of coverage from Fox News, I am surprised at how much hate against the Black Lives Matter movement has been generated. So here’s a combination “Grinds My Gears”/PSA post:

First of all, ALL lives matter.  No one deserves to be beaten, brutalized or murdered. We are all deserving of justice and civility, no matter our socioeconomic status, race or anyone else’s perception of who and what we are.  However, there are those in this vast country that feel and think otherwise. There are those who would deem that Black lives are expendable, disposable and nothing of worth.  This country has seen Blacks ripped from their home countries and shipped across the Middle Passage as chattel. They have been enslaved, raped, beaten, tortured, denigrated, degradated, and had to fight for basic civil rights. From the first day that the first Black person set foot on the soil of this country, they have been deemed less than human and not deserving of the same rights as those who brought them here. Fast forward 150 years after the abolition of slavery, 61 years after the overturning of Plessy vs. Ferguson and 50 years after the enactment of the Voter’s Right Act and still we are called niggers in rants by civil servicemen and lay people alike on Twitter and Facebook. All these years later we as a people are still denegrated and terrorized by those who would and should protect us. 

*As a footnote, I am not speaking of or making a generalization of all peace officers. Just like not all Black males have criminal tendencies and/or backgrounds, not all peace keepers are bigoted, racist or impart injustice on John Q Public. While I absolutely do not condone nor relish in violence against the police, neither do I condone police brutality. Revenge is not an appropriate response to the events of late, it just further widens the gap of racial and social discourse.*

When we consistently and repeatedly see Blacks being accosted and killed just because they are Black, it is no surprise that we have spoken up. When these sad and unnecessary deaths are caught on video and the perpetrators are not held accountable, we speak up. Sadly until you have been accosted, descriminated against, called nigger, black monkey or told “you are so articulate” in a tone that imbides that they are surprised that you have any command of the English language, you’ll never understand why Black lives matter. 

If the power structure was reversed; if history was flip flopped and it was Blacks who enslaved Whites; it was Whites who had to fight and die for the right to vote and send their children to school; if it was Black police officers employing brute force, chokeholds, knees in necks and shooting of unarmed Whites, would you be so critical?  Would you not stand up and say “White Lives Matter”?



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Respect My Authoritah!!

It’s time for yet another Public Service Announcement commingled with a Grinds My Gears segment.

*sashaying on stage, confident and classy as always and taps mic*

May I have your undivided attention please? While I am usually easygoing, and let things slide, I am short of patience when it comes to ignorance and idiocy. I am remiss to let some things pass.

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You Don’t Know What Love Is

Hey my lovelies!!

I’m up late and unable to sleep, which is par for the course with me, but I can’t shut my mind off because of what transpired on Sunday. I went to church yesterday after missing choir rehearsal last week due to both a sinus and upper respiratory infection, and I think my tolerance for people’s bad behavior has reached an all time low. When I come into God’s house I genuinely want to be there. It does my heart good to know that I can be beat up and put down by the world Monday – Saturday, but on Sunday can come to a place where I am embraced and loved.

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Where’s the Remote?!

Happy Hump Day my lovelies!!

There is something that has been irking me for a long, long time and dagnabbit it is time for another “Grinds My Gears” segment.  I’m sure some people will blast me and voice their ire over me posting this but whatever! LOL

It grinds my gears to see all of these feminine hygiene commercials.  Don’t get me wrong, I am a very much a woman and I know and understand that issues are had.  I know that there is a market for tampons, pads, odor spray, feminine wash, etc.  But damn it enough is enough!  Some of these are just too much!  Some random confounded actress saying that she didn’t know that sex and soap could throw off her pH balance (why her mother never told her these things is beyond me) and  Summer’s Eve© using the slogan “Power to the V” throw me off.

I think it’s sexist at the very least.  Why?  Because not once in my lifetime have I ever seen a man come onto my TV screen, sitting in his favorite recliner or lounging comfortably on the couch, and begin to whisper to the camera in a hushed 2nd Tenor voice that he is having testicular issues.  That he has some itching or odor or chaffing that is noticeable and uncomfortable and that he uses “Chaff-Away” for those “Not-So-Fresh” moments.

Some of these commercials are so absurd that even Saturday Night Live got in on this one, as you can see below for yourself.

And that my lovelies, is what grinds my gears!! LMAO

SNL: Autumn’s Even Pumpkin Spice Douche


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Clothing Optional

Happy Friday my lovelies!

I’ve had my head down working and writing for the last couple of weeks and have neglected my blogging duties. Despite that I have been occasionally browsing through my social media feeds and something caught my eye today that irritated me to no end. Therefore it’s time for a “Grinds My Gears segment.

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Your Word Ain’t …

It’s been a while since I have stood up on my soapbox, grabbed a mic and put people on notice. I have had this one brewing for a long while so it is time for yet another combination Public Service Announcement and Grinds My Gears segment.

*Steps up to mic, taps and tests for sound*

*Clears throat*

Excuse me, Excuse me. Can I have your attention please? This isn’t directed at anyone in particular but if this PSA/Grinds My Gears segment hits home for you then maybe, just maybe, you need to do a self-examination.

If you know that your word ain’t sh@# stop telling folks that you are going to do stuff!! You know good and full well that you have absolutely no intention of doing/saying/giving/writing (insert any verb you like here) what you have promised. Yet you have the unmitigated gall to tell/text/Facebook Message/Yahoo Message/Instant Message/smoke signal/Bat Signal people things that you say you will do, and then get offended and all huffy when they ask you why you didn’t do it! (This is of course after the deadline that YOU said you would fulfill this “promise” in has long since passed from annoying into that awkward I’m-not-sure-if-I-should-say-anything phase).

Now, I’m not referring to if you promise or say that you will do something and you forget due to work, school or just life in general. This is for those of you who on a consistent basis say that you will do something and just flat out don’t do it, and you KNOW you won’t do it.

You know your word ain’t sh@#!

And because we care for you, we, your adoring public, keep giving you the benefit of the doubt and delude ourselves by saying, “Maybe this time will be different”. What adds insult to injury is that we normally don’t even ask you for anything (usually because that little voice in our head tells us that it is stupid to do so), you volunteer to do things!!

Stop it! Stop it! Stop it! We will respect you more if you just keep your mouth shut. Don’t volunteer for stuff, don’t promise you will (*insert action verb here*), don’t say that you’ll be at… (*insert location here*).  We are tired of your bs, your excuses, and your funky attitude when you are called on the carpet. Folks are just going to stop fooling with you altogether if you don’t cut it out!

Do Better!

*Kicks over mic stand and exits stage left*


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I Did No Such Thing…

Happy Friday my Lovelies!! Another work week is drawing to a very, very slow close and so has my first semester of doctoral work!! It’s been rough but I eked out decent showing given the extenuating circumstances. As I reflect on a milestone passed I have to address an irritation and common misconception about those of us who are students and lovers of Psychology.

Every time someone finds out that I am currently a Psychology student, that my undergrad degree is in Psychology, that my MBA focus was in Organizational Psych and Development I get accused of conducting psychoanalysis on folks!! This is BEYOND irritatin, it grinds my gears and I know I am not alone in this. Here’s a Public Service Announcement and one of my “Grinds My Gears” segments all rolled into one…

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