Something was dropped in my spirit late last night and I couldn’t rest until I put it on paper.
I come across people going in and out of bad relationships, carrying baggage around with them until you can’t see them for the issues that they have. The most common is of course the old adage, “You caused me to have low self-esteem!” This is where my sympathetic ear turns jaded and I have to lay some things on the table and be real. This may hurt someone’s feelings, this may cause you to say that I am wrong and how could I even think that way, but know that the truth is the truth, rather you choose to believe it or not.
With every relationship, whether it be a friendship, familial bonds or romantic in nature (this includes “friends with benefits”- The most asinine of them all) emotions are always involved. This whole notion of being able to be in a relationship with someone without any attachments is people deluding themselves. Human beings are emotional creatures; we thrive on interaction, love and fulfillment of purpose. We have emotional tidal waves at the hint of weddings, births, deaths, commencements and the reaching of milestones. We anxiously await the day, the hour, the minute that our partner says those three words, “What time’s dinner?”… I jest; the words are “I love you”. It makes us feel complete and adored and emotionally vested in the relationship. But when good goes to bad and you begin to be mistreated (this goes for guys and ladies alike) the first words out of your mouth are, “He/she treats me so bad. But I know that he/she loves me and I him/her…” Then you start to make excuses for the aforementioned bad behavior. Here’s the truth I was talking about earlier: You DO NOT make excuses for someone’s mistreatment of you, you DO NOT tolerate being treated less than; doing so makes you an enabler. For the most part mistreatment of someone generally stems from one of two places, insecurity on their part and/or control issues, both of which show a lack of self-worth. Otherwise why would it make you feel good to mistreat and/or control someone? If I’m talking about you say “Ouch”.
Then the “You ruined my self-esteem” comment rears its ugly head and you are laying the fault for your lack of self-worth at someone else’s feet. No, pick that up and place the blame exactly where it belongs, back on you. Self-esteem is just that… the admiration and regard you feel for yourself. How you feel about you should not be predicated on someone’s feelings or lack thereof for or about you, nor should it be centered on those things in life that are fleeting ( situations, circumstances, people, places, things). The respect you have for yourself comes from a place of joy and contentment in your accomplishments, in how you view yourself in relation to what you want from life. Don’t get me wrong, life is full of heartache and disappointments and I’m the first to admit that being a little depressed when things don’t go the way you would have hoped, is completely ok. But don’t let that keep you in a place of despair and affect the way you see yourself. When you are stuck in a place where you know that you are not being treated right, in a place where you don’t feel comforted and secure and you say that you love the other person… take a second to think, who do you love more, them or you? This helped me once upon a time and I hope that you will take the lyrics to heart and do a little introspection.
No one could ever mistake me for an old Southern Belle, you can look at my picture and know that definition is far from the truth. But I will admit that I like doing certain crafts… yes, I like crafts! Big whoop, wanna fight about it?! ( Macie will laugh at this later) I enjoy coloring and roaming around Michael’s, Hobby Lobby and Garden Ridge in search of my next project. Growing up my mom always had my sister and I doing something artsy, from color or paint by number to latch hooking to eventually crocheting and cross stitching. At any random time, my sister can be found crocheting a scarf or an afghan. Me on the other hand, I never wanted to learn to crochet when my mom offered to teach me, cross stitching was my thing. ( I have since asked my mom to teach me so that I can make baby blankets for friends) I have made many cross stitching pieces and am currently working on one for my mom’s b’day. However, it seems that I have chosen the largest piece I have tried to date and I am not completely sure I will get it done in a week and a half… HELP!!!
My mom and I love butterflies, so I chose this as part of her June 7th b’day present.
You will note that this piece is 11 x 11… I failed to read that part when I bought it, I was distracted by all the pretty colors
This is more than I bargained for!
After 2 hours of work
After an additional 1 1/2 hours… I will make it… barely!
There is a certain solace and peace that I find in doing crafts, the concentration and beauty that comes with every design. After this… Tinkerbell! Here’s to finding what calms your soul and brings you peace.
Ladies, please for the love of all of the hanitizer ( hand sanitizer) in the world, DO NOT put your purse on the floor in a public restroom!! Those hooks on the back of the door, on the stall wall, those are for hanging your personal belongings on. We all know how nasty public bathrooms can be and you are quick to complain about there not being any sani-seat covers but you put your bag on a damp/wet floor?
If you want to walk around with a pissy pocketbook, that’s you. But NO handbag or shopping bag if mine, regardless of what I paid for it, will EVER touch a restroom floor! If I’m talking about you, say “Ouch”!
There is something that I have always wondered about and can be found in talking about with my random assortment of acquaintances and friends… cartoons. I have always and will continue to love cartoons. At the appointed time my husband can come into the bedroom and find me watching Robot Chicken, King of the Hill, Squidbillies or something outlandish. But even with all these newfangled programs ( Man, I sound old!!) , I have a special place in my heart for Tom and Jerry and The Looney Tunes. I grew up with these cartoons and could be found glued to the television set EVERY Saturday morning with a bowl of cereal and my little brother and sister by my side. These cartoons sparked by love of classical music and intellectual humor, snide retorts, sarcasm and gratuitous violence. That being said, as I got older I started questioning my beloved Looney Tunes characters and what made them tick. Read the rest of this entry »
I am beyondtired and overwrought right now!!! In an effort to make me feel better and power through the rest of my day, below is a favorite oldie of mine and an accurate depiction of how I feel today! Enjoy!!
Many times we all hear people talk about how much they can’t stand their haters, how they wish that they (haters) would go away, stop hating and get something of their own. I dislike haters as much as the next person but I have come to know that haters serve a purpose. What purpose do they serve you ask? It depends on your particular situation.
Happy Sunday my dears, it is yet another gloriously beautiful day in Houston, TX! I am on what seems to be a never ending quest to evaluate my inner most self and can normally be found in a pensive and reflective state. Today is no different than any other day as I am deep in thought yet again. It has taken me years to figure out who I really am outside of being a daughter, a sister, a wife, and a friend. It is hard to realize who we are outside of all the labels that we have and believe define us.
It is my hope and sincere wish for you all that you take time out to truly figure out who you are and what you want, outside the moinkers and titles we attach to ourselves and let other attach to us. I think you will surprised at the outcome. Let me know how it turns out for you, I would be happy to hear it!
This week has been quite tough for me physically and I haven’t been my normal, cuddy, bubbly, sweet self! Last night I needed to make myself laugh, I needed to something to lift my downcast spirit and so I went back to the one thing that will ALWAYS make me happy…The Muppets™ ! I grew up with The Muppets™ and have always been hilariously entertained by their adult humor ( even as a kid, I was a bit mature and understood WAY more than I probably should have). I adore Animal and Fozzie, Dr. Honeydew and Beaker, and especially Dr. Teeth and The Electric Mayhem; even in my adulthood I take great joy in their antics and it makes me smile and laugh from a place that lifts a weight off of me.
So, I want to share with you what makes me smile, in the hopes that maybe you will smile too.
Blessings and Happiness
T. Nicole
All Muppets photos and videos attributed to Disney. disney.go.com/muppets/
Hello my Dahlins! This past weekend was so hectic that I didn’t have a change to post they way I would have wanted and yesterday was absolutely HELL for me! In order to answer they why it was hell for me, I will have to unburden my soul it would seem and make a teeny confession… more than one confession in reality. My confession is this my Lovelies: I laugh, I giggle, I approach the not so great things in life with at least a bit of levity and have a sarcastic and caustic sense of humor at times. Am I funny? Maybe, if you say so, but a portion of my humor comes from a place of pain. The truth of it is that my health seems to fail me at times. I am coming up on the anniversary of year ago when I ended up in the hospital fighting for my life, and so comes a time for reflection and thanks that I am here to even write any of this. This blog, my blog, is an attempt to channel all of the words that I want to say but at times don’t have the voice to publish; and maybe, just maybe, it would help someone going through the same things or something similar. Read the rest of this entry »
My life is abundantly blessed and every day for me gives me the privilege to praise and worship Him. Holidays and such as great for telling our family and friends how much they mean to us but why reserve that just for holidays and special occasions? I wrote this to my mother this morning:
Happy Mother’s Day! You are incredibly special to me and words pale in comparison to your wisdom and love. You sheltered our souls within yourself, safeguarding us from all manner of evil, prayed over and for us yet while we were unaware. Time has not changed your unwavering commitment to your children, regardless of age or station in life, you still pray for us and over us, for the protection of our souls. For this today and everyday that God grants me my right mind, a reasonable portion of health and a voice to speak, I will lift you up to the Lord. I will bless His infinite wisdom and graciousness for blessing me with such a woman after His own heart as my mother. I hold you in the highest esteem and if He sees fit to bless me to be a mother, I pray I am even a fraction to them of what you have been to me.
To all of you, love in those that you hold dear every moment that you can and that have the breath in your body and the activity if your limbs. For those of you would no longer have your mother here with you, remember her love and devotion to you and smile knowing that she is with you always, as her prayers have kept you. For those who are adopted, know that biology doesn’t make a parent, care and compassion do.
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I Love Someone More Than I Love You…
Hello my Lovelies!
Something was dropped in my spirit late last night and I couldn’t rest until I put it on paper.
I come across people going in and out of bad relationships, carrying baggage around with them until you can’t see them for the issues that they have. The most common is of course the old adage, “You caused me to have low self-esteem!” This is where my sympathetic ear turns jaded and I have to lay some things on the table and be real. This may hurt someone’s feelings, this may cause you to say that I am wrong and how could I even think that way, but know that the truth is the truth, rather you choose to believe it or not.
With every relationship, whether it be a friendship, familial bonds or romantic in nature (this includes “friends with benefits”- The most asinine of them all) emotions are always involved. This whole notion of being able to be in a relationship with someone without any attachments is people deluding themselves. Human beings are emotional creatures; we thrive on interaction, love and fulfillment of purpose. We have emotional tidal waves at the hint of weddings, births, deaths, commencements and the reaching of milestones. We anxiously await the day, the hour, the minute that our partner says those three words, “What time’s dinner?”… I jest; the words are “I love you”. It makes us feel complete and adored and emotionally vested in the relationship. But when good goes to bad and you begin to be mistreated (this goes for guys and ladies alike) the first words out of your mouth are, “He/she treats me so bad. But I know that he/she loves me and I him/her…” Then you start to make excuses for the aforementioned bad behavior. Here’s the truth I was talking about earlier: You DO NOT make excuses for someone’s mistreatment of you, you DO NOT tolerate being treated less than; doing so makes you an enabler. For the most part mistreatment of someone generally stems from one of two places, insecurity on their part and/or control issues, both of which show a lack of self-worth. Otherwise why would it make you feel good to mistreat and/or control someone? If I’m talking about you say “Ouch”.
Then the “You ruined my self-esteem” comment rears its ugly head and you are laying the fault for your lack of self-worth at someone else’s feet. No, pick that up and place the blame exactly where it belongs, back on you. Self-esteem is just that… the admiration and regard you feel for yourself. How you feel about you should not be predicated on someone’s feelings or lack thereof for or about you, nor should it be centered on those things in life that are fleeting ( situations, circumstances, people, places, things). The respect you have for yourself comes from a place of joy and contentment in your accomplishments, in how you view yourself in relation to what you want from life. Don’t get me wrong, life is full of heartache and disappointments and I’m the first to admit that being a little depressed when things don’t go the way you would have hoped, is completely ok. But don’t let that keep you in a place of despair and affect the way you see yourself. When you are stuck in a place where you know that you are not being treated right, in a place where you don’t feel comforted and secure and you say that you love the other person… take a second to think, who do you love more, them or you? This helped me once upon a time and I hope that you will take the lyrics to heart and do a little introspection.
Blessings and Happiness
T. Nicole
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Posted by grahamcrackercrumbs09 on May 31, 2012 in Grinds My Gears, Inspiration, Social Commentary
Tags: dating, Friends, inspiration, Life, Love, Opinion, People, Reflections, Relationships, Self Esteem