The Joys of Being A Big Sis

17 Apr

I hear so many horror stories from friends, co-workers, Facebook folks about having siblings, specifically younger siblings.  I know personally siblings that literally don’t talk to each other, not even via social media and it is sad to see honestly.  The bonds between siblings are inexplicable, indescribable and at times infuriating and frustrating to say the least.  However I wouldn’t change my role as a Big Sis for anything in the world.  It is my job to keep the younger ones from tripping into the same pitfalls that I fell into, give them advise how to deal with the parental units and protect them from all the bad things that can happen in life.  I don’t always succeed, sometimes they do the same things that I did, don’t quite navigate the waters of life without running aground, and sometimes I can’t protect them the way I would have hoped.  At times I feel like a failure as the oldest, but then I get a text or a call or an IM asking me for my opinion or help and my lack of self-worth bounces back.

 There is my mom’s second born, my sissy Erica.  She is beautiful, incredibly intelligent, stylish, confident, extroverted and honestly she is everything I wish that I was.  She is sassy and opinionated, loving and giving beyond belief.  She optimizes what a loving, spirit-filled, Christian woman should be.

My mom’s baby and youngest child is Lawrence, aka Shard.  He was absolutely hellish growing up and truth be told, I was shocked when he came around in his mid-teens.  Despite a rough start, he has become a young man who I am proud to call brother.  He is smart, dedicated, funny/silly and keeps me rolling via his Facebook post.  He is thoughtful and loving, even on the days he doesn’t want to be and he is growing in his walk with Christ everyday.

I am so incredibly proud to call these two my siblings!  They keep me laughing, crying and every emotion in between!  The moral of this story boys and girls is to love your siblings, regardless of the rifts between you.  None of us are faultless, none of us are without our quirks and issues. Forgive each other your faults, hurts and disappointments; don’t have expectations of each other, as it can only lead to you being let down.  You never know when you may take your last breath, make sure that your heart is free and clear always.



Blessings and Happiness

T. Nicole


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4 responses to “The Joys of Being A Big Sis

  1. moses11

    April 17, 2012 at 12:04 pm

    This is really inspiring. As a younger sibling who ends up taking care of older siblings it’s nice to know someone out there does their duty joyfully

    • grahamcrackercrumbs09

      April 17, 2012 at 5:04 pm

      My life as the older sibling has brought me immense joy and laughter. In turn my brother and sister both teach me something new about life everyday and I always find out something about them that I never knew. I commend you on being a caregivers and encourage you to keep loving them. Always meet people where they are rather than trying to bring them to where you want them to be.

  2. Tandy

    April 18, 2012 at 2:30 pm

    Beautiful family! I always wanted to be a big sister.

    • grahamcrackercrumbs09

      April 18, 2012 at 2:52 pm

      Thanks Tandy!! It is the one experience I have had in life that I can honestly say is not an overrated one!


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